"$10,000, perfect. We'll take it."
All the money we had. We moved everyone in. All the friends who were on couches. The friends about to drive South for the winter, we caught them and said, "hey, come in, we're gonna do a thing this winter." We could play shows in the barn, set up baths around the property and pump in some water from some underground hot spring. Who knows about those things.. That Irish guy in East of Eden with his water stick waving over the dust. A thousand words for every scoop he said? I can never find the things I'm looking for when I need them. We're gonna get all the rugs and lay them out. Then we're gonna get a bunch of paper and pens and typewriters and lay those out too. We're gonna have these nights where we all lay on the rugs and answer writing prompts. Some folks will crawl on the roof for a little space. Write by the light of the moon. Write by the light of Mars, of Venus, of UFO beams or whatever. Then we'll read what we wrote. Some won't. We won't force anyone. We'll spit whiskey into the fire and cast "good riddance" spells on our exes even though we still love them. We'll never eat and never sleep. It'll be all work. All dance. All strum strum on the strings and "when's your producer friend coming up from Oakland with their equipment?" Nail mattresses to the walls. Line books on the shelves we wrote. Of course we'll eat. The kitchen will always be warm. The stove will always be on. Coffee and beer will collide in the tween hours of 1p and 5p. It'll be venison stew in the Winter, dandelion greens in the Spring, river water in the summer, and maple syrup in the fall. There will always be kittens and they'll either all have homes or be wild. Coyotes will come and go to pick up the kittens but our kittens are smart. Ducking under holes in the barn just in time. And somehow kids will be there but they won't be assholes. Their parents will keep 'em busy and curious and exploring and they won't run into the sides of tables and scream, or touch anyone's shit. They'll ask all the best questions. They'll be elected king and queen and they'll put on these plays that will have everyone roaring with laughter or sobbing. When someone gets sick we'll cover them in blankets and ladle bone broth down their throats. When they die we'll bury them deep into earth. When they come back in our dreams we'll gather everyone around to tell of the visions. Of course we'll sleep. I know it sounds like it will smell terrible. The drafts will never be fixed because we're artists. The roof will always leak. The walls are full of mildew and mold and we'll all get coughs. The property tax will never get paid and the cops will come and throw us all out. Toss bleach on the clothes and things so they're ruined. Board everything up. Like they do. But imagine for a second it smelled like warm caramel, fresh linen, and a little cedar. Imagine the kittens came in from the barn as we pulled quilts over our heads and their heads and our lover's heads and we knew nothing could come in to hurt us. Imagine the coziest of cozy sleeps where everyone you know is safe. Where everyone you know is right there and you can just call out and ask them a little question if you wanted to. Like, "did you see the sky during sunset this evening?" even though you know they did. Because you were right next to them. And just like in that Kerouac poem, "everybody goes, 'Awww!'"
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The problem with loving is when to stop.
I pulled the lavender inside, keeping it from the smoke. It has forgiven the elements already and reaches for, with wispy tendrils of sun starved fronds, for the drapeless window. I shake my head at our spiritual juxtapostion. What if I offered you little pieces of my heart, one bit at a time, so you wouldn't even notice you held it? A feather A cottonwood bud plumped with autumn A squash seed A sunflower petal A walnut You wouldn't even notice, the pieces would be placed absently on your altar next to the photographs of your great-grandparents. You wouldn't even notice me there. You wouldn't notice the eek of the walnut cracking or the petal rustling. Oils of the seed leaving a single drop. I still love you. I still love you. I still love you. Even, and especially when, I come apart. Each of us carries the map of our lives on our skin, in the way we walk, even in the way we grow.9/1/2020 Note to self: Touching, swinging, primate, parsing details Sitting with confusion "Here we are, trapped, in the amber of the moment. There is no why." -Vonnegut So it goes. I've been swinging lately, shifting weight from hand to wall, bending the core of my will around the spaces and moving through them deftly. Once I was a room. An impossibly big room that fit jokingly, like a father's robe around a child. But eventually I grew into it. Or perhaps it shrank? It was a corner room, with two brick walls meeting, laden with enormous windows secreting leaden weights which lifted the glass from tarred cords, somewhere inside their frames. To fit properly I started sewing the holes, deft thread in and out, closing the cracks - the material beginning to show form and match itself to my shape. I filled it with music, and ran my hands along its edges to familiarize myself with its shape. As it began to know me, it grew comfortable, and collapsed itself onto my skin gratefully. It breathed as I breathed. In every corner, and even on the broad parts I hung bouquets of yarrow. Asking for the stuck energy to filter away, letting the fresh in. A protective spell cast. We knew each other, and that is all I can say for what love probably is. Now I find myself in places with many turns, not open, like the room I once wore. Curved and nooked and slim. Made for bodies to come into contact, to crash a bit. I always find myself calling and singing around these corners, anticipating the eventual collision of another body, perhaps clicking their way around. It's strange actually how seldom we actually meet. There's always a bubble that seems to catch us. I've begun to say, "Excuse me," rather than, "I'm sorry," in these moments. "The body is not an apology," Sonya Renee Taylor let's us know. It's ok to exist and get in the way a bit. Impossible to avoid unless you are a ghost really. One day. But not today. In this place of many turns I find myself swinging. There are dirty points, smoothed points, worn, grooved, of many quick grasps where the weight is shifted. A quick story to explain what I mean: There is a black bronze statue at the Grotto in East Portland, that sits overlooking the scrum of highways connecting Oregon to Washington. It's of Mary holding a slumped Jesus, her left hand extended in a gesture of .. grief? confusion? questioning why this useless violence that has happened? There is a sign below the statue which makes observers aware not to touch the statue. It's let's us know the bronze material is very sensitive to human oils. Yet, despite this warning, the finger-tips of Mary's outstretched hands are patinated, touched by the oils of many hands. The fingertips stand out, gleaming gold in spite of the obsidian radiance of the rest of the statue. So many hands seeking perhaps to comfort her. Seeking to redirect their own balance in the space. It's an extension of our movement, these pivot points. These spots that indicate our movement, the smoothed altered surfaces we return to again and again. And it reminds me of our ancestors. The old wise ones. The elders. The ones who lived in the trees. The ones who made smooth the branches of the jungle, who's hands were so much stronger than ours now. Of course I'm making some assumptions. I'd like to pretend I feel them in me when I move through the spaces, hands always catching my balance from wall to railing to pillar to door knob. The feeling of fallen and caught weight, the feeling of swinging through spaces. The feeling of singing around corners, of narrow misses always, but rarely crashes. The way we move around each other, singing and dancing and touching. Making marks, touching, leaving our prints. We are not ghosts yet, we cannot pass through one another. We move in our spaces and touch. We leave an imprint. We leave a path in our wake. We are always, always swinging. What does it mean that Mars is suddenly watching us in the East?
Each evening I come home, I see him hovering over the trees and rooftops. I could ask some astronomy friends. Mars? patron of passions, fucking, force of will - what does his presence bring in the story of natal charts and constellation trajectories? I could ask the woo-folks: what do you see? What does he tell you in your dreams? Has he always been there, or I'm finally noticing? Or I could ask Mars himself: what brings you here on these cooling summer nights, when the curfew has been made, but we still take to the night streets? (He took the plane North, but didn't let me know he was in town. It's no matter (That's what I tell myself)) "You're so full of joy," they tell me. "It's right there," I tell them, "all the pain and anger. It's just right there," I point to the top of my throat. I swallow it down. Once you asked, "what's on your heart?" as we walked slowly, taking the dogs out free-range, down the alley, and it all came spilling up. It took everything I had to choke it back down, swallow it, and respond in some benign way. I had always wanted to be asked, but had never prepared for what happened if I was. An invitation to spill out. These ruptures at the seams. It matters. It's easy to mask. We get so good at it when it's expected of us. Nature craves balance, I admitted to myself yesterday, that revelation clicking playfully into place. I try to always and only have good days. No bad days. Trying to hold the pendulum swing at such an impossible arc, a frivolous endeavor. So, I'll ask direct: Mars, what brings you here? All the pieces coming together, I take the moment to pull things apart. Instead of binding journals I want to mediate of paper. Instead of copy-pasting her essay into a doc and compiling the book, I want to spend time brushing over fonts. Considering hand-writing everything. I slow things down, so much they don't seem like they're moving at all.
At the cafe in Sisters with Matthew Carter, talking about paper. He wants a leather bound day-planner that will last three years. I push him towards the mixed-media Canson paper, almost comparable to watercolor pages with its thick tooth and fraying tear style. "Let's do this!" he said. He'd been on me all week about getting together and doing this work. "Don't you like living forever in the planning stages scheming impossibly ridiculous expectations?" I texted him. "Can you come in the morning?" he responded. Things are sitting, unseen / unread, in binders, in files, in journals. It feels ok this way, but there is wisdom that needs to be fleshed out, put on page and bound. But I slow things down. I want star alignment, I want validation and approval for my movements, continuous reward, like following a candy trail into the forest. Something familiar leading into the unknown? But I know it's because I'm just scared. The actuality of my dreams is terrifying, not even the failure or disappointment, though those factor in. But actually seeing a flower transform into a fruit, because it's like love, and there's something so frightening about about that to me. This is such an embarrassing story, but I'll tell it. I told it to Jonathan the other day, all weepy, and excusing myself for being three weeks into Wellbutrin. It wasn't that. I was just sad. A friend and I have been soliciting dick-pics from Tinder matches. One in particular who I sent my number to who claimed he was offended by the site of dicks in porns, because they were as attractive as his. We continued a very inconsistent conversation around cunnilingus, food, vague reflections on our day, and really nothing interesting. Ultimately, without too much exchange and without more reasoning than why not, I texted him after work for his address. Heading over the fucking googlemaps took me down every fucking unlit neighborhood and road detour until, within being within two minutes of arrival coming to a gravel hole in the earth indicating "Road Closed." The headlights hitting the sign I could only think, "This was a joke I set-up for myself, on myself, and everyone is laughing but me." I just went home, and cried and cried because I had gone to fast. I thought, for the moment, it was ok to cheat a bit. Cheat love a bit, and not have a connection or a thousand arrows pointing yes, and just go. I just wanted to be loved, made-out with, eat guacomole on the counter-top, talk about my day, talk about his day, fuck. Why not. And it wouldn't let me. They wouldn't let me. Whoever they are that sits with me all day pulling the pieces apart and not together to examine yhe bigger picture. The force that takes me so long to finish anything, if I finish it at all. Once, in the Wal Mart parking lot, I had found a mess of glossy scraps and arranged them into a photograph of a man and a woman. It was a selfie, cheek to cheek. "A bad breakup" I hypothesized, a connection that hadn't made it in the car, to the house, and into a frame on the mantle. Left as rubbish to be stirred by exhaust on hot concrete. I don't know what to do with this box full of photographs. I printed them out. They made it home. They made it to a place where they were passed back and forth, smiled over, and set gently away for another time of sweet nostalgia. "Stay Awhile," I had painted on the top. It's all one can really ask for, even if a relationship lasts a lifetime. It's always just "awhile." When people come into my work celebrating a ___ year anniversary I always comment that, "once I made it three years." Once I had been loved for awhile. In 2013 I had a great purge. I burned everything, all the tangible memories, even stuff I had done in kindergarten. I burned everything that I didn't use on a day-to-day. I burned all the photographs and projects. Matt Ozrelic had walked by and asked if I was "going through a thing." "It's the Year of the Snake," I had said, "it's time to let go. It's time to be lighter. Time to not be held down." I was also borrowing a memory I had had in Olympia, Washington watching Alexis burn all her journals before moving to London. When I had protested, she countered, "there are things here just for processing. Things I need to let go. Things I don't want my mom to know if something were to happen to me and these were left." She granted me permission to fish out her French notes from Evergreen the way Matt, years later, would fish out a little zine I wasn't proud of. I'm not of Chinese ancestry, but I do consider the Lunar New Year and pay attention to Chinese publications that come out with omens and predictions. 2020 is the year of the Rat. In my own inappropriate appropriation of that symbol I think of rats as being pragmatic survivalists. They are considerate collectors, thoughtful, and sentimental. This is all to say, I don't mind holding on right now. I know it's holding me back from moving on, weighing me down, and sabotaging creativity, but letting go doesn't feel right at the moment.. Holding on is the opposite of everything I've ever done. I have no precedent or proper defense. I'm not ready for my relationship to be bits of shiny paper strewn in a parking lot. I don't want it to be ashes in the fireplace. There is a community of people in the Toraja region of Sulawesi in eastern Indonesia who keep their dead close, perhaps lying in bed. The state of death of their loved ones doesn't create an absence as much as a stillness or silence. Is this how I feel? Is this what I'm doing? I do not expect in any way my past relationship to raise its head and speak to me as it once did. But the symbolic discard of burning/burying feels as much as a useless gesture as keeping the box. In fact, it feels wrong. Keeping the box feels right. That's all that can be said in its defense. In my defense. In the least, if anything were to happen to me, a stranger could pick up the box intact and rightfully hypothesize, "she was loved once." In this memory of at one time being chosen, I am at a loss. At one moment yes yes yes trails into ellipsis, cake crumbs into dust we walk over on the way to somewhere else.
We're in this moment of dwelling, a Sousa saudade maybe, a longing, a reflection that keeps us awake at night, so aware of the sounds of everything but another's soft breathing next to us. Claps of laughter go where? Where goes all the little details, where is the slip between the cracks as seasons change? "I don't want to be obsessed with relationships, or yearn to be in one, but it hurts when these women loved me so much and then that love is gone," you told me once. I snap my fingers in agreement. Why don't memories keep us warm? Is there a hole in the ether that opens once a year to crawl into the blanket of the past and slip into the moments of sweetness whose flavor has been forgotten? You're probably the only one reading this. What spell do we cast? What items do I lay on my altar during what phase of the moon to unlock the place where there wasn't loneliness? What drugs do we take? "Why aren't we longing for each other?" he asked. "We are, so much." I missed the comet. It didn't matter. Why look when you can never shift your weight into another and hear them say, "wow." Maybe it's just the way it is.
Listening to a playlist I made during a time when everything felt beautiful and it falls flat. All the pieces of the project splayed around me from the working times have lost their coherence. The ink went out, so things paused, then they sat and collected dust, waiting for me to animate them. Sometimes things feel like they're swirling, sparkles caught up in my spinning wizard's cloak. They swirl and swirl with me until I tumble, the moon wanes, we fall, become heavy, become weight. I've never understood why it's like this, just the way it is. The momentum, the building, then the sudden drop. Where once there was meaning in every song and color, every conversation, every word, every letter.. to finish is to labor. The sparkle becomes a heavy rock. The people I met during the times when things were good, couldn't possibly understand that all I want to do is lay down for weeks. No singing, no dancing. So this cycle continues. All the heaviness is put away instead of finished. Texts and e-mails go unanswered. The tapestry I was working on ends in a fray. Maybe it's just the way it is. |
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